I’m Growing Older But Not Up

Dear Board,

I don’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a member.

Sincerely Yours, Groucho Marx


Thought I’d take a few moments today to reflect on what it means to join Club 50.

On one hand… I made it!

On the other hand… WTF – 50?

I feel blessed to have a loving family, good health and most of my mental faculties intact.

I feel frustrated about missed opportunities, unmet goals and unrealized potential and sad about the times I failed to appreciate or recognize the gifts the universe left right in front of me.

I feel pleased about all those once in a lifetime moments (and there have been many) where I did in fact stop to smell the roses and take in the magnificent beauty of our world.

I feel angry about the times I offered an olive branch of compromise when I should have presented a middle finger of objection.

I feel proud of all the times I’ve been able to do something and do it well…


The Cool of the Evening

“He [Johnny Sain] used to say a pitcher had a kind of special feeling after he did really well in a ballgame. John called it the ‘cool of the evening’, when you could sit and relax and not worry about being in there for three or four more days; the job was done, a good job, and now it was up to someone else to go out there the next day and do the slogging. The cool of the evening.”

– from Ball Four by Jim Bouton


Moving forward… the fact is I’m further from the beginning and closer to the end. Thankfully, I’ve learned to appreciate and be grateful for what I have and care less about what other people think.

I’ve finally learned to pay more attention to my inner voice.

(Note to Li’l D – don’t wait until you’re 50 to fine tune this trait. What you wear/own/drive/live in really doesn’t mean  a thing. Who you are and what’s in your heart – regardless of what other people think about you – is all that really matters.)

My birthday wish for my next 50 years is to be able to follow the path of my fictional Uncle J.T. in “Why They Call Me Captain Dan”


Mine has been a life well lived. I’m gonna go out happy Danny boy and they can’t NEVER take that away from me!!

Best wishes and always remember

1. Make ’em laugh so’s you’ll never be lonely
2. Don’t ever let the bastards get you down.
3. End your day with a stiff drink at sunset to forget about the bullshit.